This is a form of “restrictive discipline,” much like giving your sub a “time out” in the corner. If they break the rules, take away something they enjoy as punishment. This could be access to the show they want to watch, their cell phone, or even an orgasm. 22. Writing lines This is a form of public degradation: You make your submissive wear a shirt that literally says "slut" on it. 7. Chain the naughty sub up Punishment can include spankings, slapping, choking, use of restraints, or (consensually) forcing your partner into sexual acts," says Daniel Saynt, founder and chief conspirator of The New Society for Wellness, a private members Open Love club for the adventurous. "It's really up to you and your partner to set the limits of what's okay for punishment and what's not.” Or, you could deny them a spanking. “Sometimes a submissive will ‘act out’ to get the punishment that they really enjoy," says Taylor Sparks, erotic educator and founder of Organic Loven, the largest BIPOC-owned online intimacy shop. "One way to punish them is to NOT give them what they enjoy." 3. Forced silence. This is where you bring someone to the brink of orgasm, only to stop touching them right before orgasm. Oh, the sweet agony. 2. Spanking (or not spanking)

Refuse to let your partner pleasure you and make them beg for a taste," Saynt suggests. "Come within a few inches of their mouth, watch their tongue slip out and get just close enough but not quite there. Make your body their prize and make the longing for it the punishment.” 11. Grab the ice This one is taken right out of the old Catholic school playbook. If your sub does something they’re not supposed to, have them write out what they did a hundred times as punishment. 23. Collar themHave your sub sit in the shower or bathtub and pee on them. This kind of humiliation play can get messy, so you might want to do it in the nude. 21. Take away something they like Gain exclusive access to the best sex tips, relationship advice, and more with our premium membership program. Men's Health Have your sub go to the grocery store, the dry cleaners, or some other ordinary place while wearing a panty vibrator. You can accompany them, if you choose. We love the We-Vibe Moxie, which comes with its own remote for the dom to control. 19. Make them wear the shame When doing something unarranged, ask the submissive. The same serves to increase the sub missive’s limits.

When you hear the word “punishment,” sex probably isn't the first thing that comes to mind. But in BDSM—an umbrella term that encompasses bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism, and masochism—punishment can be a major component of sex. And a pleasurable one, at that. If your sub breaks the rules, write what they did wrong on their body in permanent marker. Make them wear it around all day so they don’t forget how naughty they were. 20. Golden shower Try to find out as much as possible details of the sub missive’s fetishes before the session. To see if there is an affinity between you.

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A chastity device is really cool, it makes the session last for days or weeks. And conditions his sexual pleasure to your presence, holder of the keys. Force your sub to agree to keep their pretty little mouth shut. You can go a step further by not allowing your submissive to speak while in a public place without asking permission first. 4. Denying your sub an event they’re looking forward to This would be cruel outside of a consenting dom/sub dynamic, but hot as hell if both parties are into it. “[This entails] getting your submissive dressed up for an event that they really enjoy, but upon arrival making them sit outside on the ground with their hands in their lap and not allow them to come into the event for a specific amount of time,” Sparks says. 5. Walk your sub like a puppy

Every couple is free to determine the type and severity of punishments they want to use—and the options are essentially endless. For example, if the submissive partner is a "brat" (a sub who enjoys disobeying their dom’s rules), a dom might give you a spanking as a punishment for being naughty. If you are going to work with candles, be very careful about the temperature of their wax, as well as the possibility of fire.Run away from the bad-mouthers from behind, when you turn around, you’ll be the victim. I speak from experience. I was a victim of it. If your sub is naughty, take away their table privileges and force them to eat off the floor like a dog. 14. Use them as human furniture Don’t be with some “charity” submissive, they don’t want to be with charity Dom. In addition to the session being terrible for you. The horny, the desire are necessary for a session.